I just came back from a visit to see my daughter’s beautiful baby. Let me tell you this baby is A dream to me I really never thought I would ever get to hold any of my grandchildren.
On my journey I was able to see each one of my children however brief. It was very clear to me that they have taken on beliefs about who I am that are
- completely false.
- extremely painful to hear.
- false allegations are very nearly indefensible. I mean you cannot prove a negative.
- I’m trying to understand how these ANY of my kids could even begin to believe half of what they told me they believe about ME! I’m the mother. Remember me? I’m the one who gave birth to them. 4 kids wasn’t just a game, I was in for the long haul.
The worst part about my trip to Alabama was that I came away with the belief that these false-hoods are so ingrained in two of my children’s view of reality that I Think it is very doubtful they will ever allow themselves to love me. I’m trying to be optimistic but even tiny niceties like “hello” in a text message are ignored.
One comment that was repeated to me in confidence was that I don’t know them anymore. It is the not knowing them that is truly breaking my heart .
Hindsight is 20/20; if I can help one person trying to decide whether to leave their family, please put your child’s future before your own or your spouse. whatever you do don’t leave the state and preferably do not leave the town, as the adult it is your responsibility to teach your children how to resolve conflict and how to get along with others even when you’re very angry.
I’m here to tell you when parents are considering a divorce or breaking up with your babies mommy or daddy don’t move out-of-state or you may never have a chance of a good relationship with your child. FOREVER.